Your Brain on Anger

In my work as a couples therapist, I often have couples complain to me about their partner’s anger management issues. As a mother myself, I never knew how angry I could get until I had children!

Chronic anger can erode and break relationships and has a huge long-term physical, emotional, interpersonal, and spiritual costs.

Exploring, taming, and managing our anger is a process that involves being curious and open about what is going on when we get angry. The first step is awareness. The following reflection questions can be helpful in becoming more aware of our typical patterns:

1. What are the trigger events?

2. What are your angry “hot” thoughts?

3. What do you feel in your body?

4. Is there a connection to the past?

5. What is the purpose/goal of your anger?

6. What are the primary emotions below the anger?

 

Want to know more about what happens in our brains when we get angry?

Watch this video by Dr. Daniel Siegel, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA, to learn why it’s impossible to respond rationally or with empathy, since we have “flipped our lids” and temporarily lost access to our pre-frontal cortex, our source of emotional regulation, reasoning, problem-solving, self-awareness, and morality:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD-lfP1FBFk

Taming our anger is a choice that requires effort and intentionality. Awareness is the first step, so start paying attention now!

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2 Responses to Your Brain on Anger

  1. amanda@optimallifesolutions.com'Amanda@Optimallifesolutions.com says:

    Do you have a client(s) who struggles with managing their anger? Are you looking for a class to refer them to where they can learn easy, practical skills to start managing their anger in a non-judgmental and laid back environment? Do you work with a busy professional who has limited time during the week? Is your client hesitant to enroll in an anger management class because of the time commitment of having to attend a weekly group? Have you considered referring your client to Optimal Life Solutions LLC?
    At Optimal Life Solutions LLC, we are anger management specialists offering a variety of anger management services to suit the needs of any and all types of clients. We currently offer an individual anger management coaching program and a comprehensive one day 8-hour anger management class every month in our Takoma Park, MD office. The class usually takes place on either one Saturday or Sunday each month to accommodate clients who are just too busy to take a class or attend a group during the week. Our anger management class satisfies most court-ordered requirements for those clients who have been ordered by a court system to complete an anger management class. We also cater to clients who are looking to take the class as a means of self-improvement.
    5 Good Reasons to Consider Referring Your Client to an Anger Management Class:
    1. The client will benefit from learning from other class participants who struggle with similar issues. This is a valuable benefit clients can only get from a group context.
    2. Often client’s present with so many issues in psychotherapy it can often be difficult for the primary therapist to spend time helping the client to better manage the anger. Referring the client to an anger class can help them learn the tools to better control their anger, and also free up more time to work on other issues the client is presenting with.
    3. Our class is an excellent adjunct to couples therapists and family therapists, especially if you recognize that one or more clients would benefit from learning to manage their anger to improve their relationship with a significant other or within the family system.
    4. We are available for consultation if you are considering referring a client but are just not sure. We would be happy to talk with you over the phone and answer any questions you may have about our program.
    5. The truth is ANYONE can benefit from learning the tools we teach in our one-day comprehensive anger management class. Often once clients take our class, they are motivated and energized to start putting the tools they learn into practice.

    Our next class will be held on February 24, 2013 from 9:00-5:30 in our Takoma Park, MD office. To learn more about our class or to register, please visit http://www.optimallifesolutions.com or give us a call at 301-539-9355.

  2. amanda@optimallifesolutions.com'Amanda@Optimallifesolutions.com says:

    Do you have a client(s) who struggles with managing their anger? Are you looking for a class to refer them to where they can learn easy, practical skills to start managing their anger in a non-judgmental and laid back environment? Do you work with a busy professional who has limited time during the week? Is your client hesitant to enroll in an anger management class because of the time commitment of having to attend a weekly group? Have you considered referring your client to Optimal Life Solutions LLC?
    At Optimal Life Solutions LLC, we are anger management specialists offering a variety of anger management services to suit the needs of any and all types of clients. We currently offer an individual anger management coaching program and a comprehensive one day 8-hour anger management class every month in our Takoma Park, MD office. The class usually takes place on either one Saturday or Sunday each month to accommodate clients who are just too busy to take a class or attend a group during the week. Our anger management class satisfies most court-ordered requirements for those clients who have been ordered by a court system to complete an anger management class. We also cater to clients who are looking to take the class as a means of self-improvement.
    5 Good Reasons to Consider Referring Your Client to an Anger Management Class:
    1. The client will benefit from learning from other class participants who struggle with similar issues. This is a valuable benefit clients can only get from a group context.
    2. Often client’s present with so many issues in psychotherapy it can often be difficult for the primary therapist to spend time helping the client to better manage the anger. Referring the client to an anger class can help them learn the tools to better control their anger, and also free up more time to work on other issues the client is presenting with.
    3. Our class is an excellent adjunct to couples therapists and family therapists, especially if you recognize that one or more clients would benefit from learning to manage their anger to improve their relationship with a significant other or within the family system.
    4. We are available for consultation if you are considering referring a client but are just not sure. We would be happy to talk with you over the phone and answer any questions you may have about our program.
    5. The truth is ANYONE can benefit from learning the tools we teach in our one-day comprehensive anger management class. Often once clients take our class, they are motivated and energized to start putting the tools they learn into practice.

    Our next class will be held on February 24, 2013 from 9:00-5:30 in our Takoma Park, MD office. To learn more about our class or to register, please visit http://www.optimallifesolutions.com or give us a call at 301-539-9355.

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