Who is Helping You Get Off the Fence?

When two people are in a relationship and one decides to call it quits, does the other partner stand a chance to restore the rupture of an already broken relationship? Every week I encounter stories of couples on the fence or in crisis vacillating between staying in or getting out … Continue reading

How to talk to kids about sexual abuse, and how you can help prevent it

One of my clients came into my office one day for a last-minute appointment and he sounded anxious. I had been working with him as his psychotherapist for several months and we had just started to delve into some deeper issues as our therapeutic bond became stronger. It was in that session, … Continue reading

Radical Self-Care for the Holidays!

Heading into the holidays is like relationship boot camp. Your family of origin (FOO) brings out the best and the worst in you and your loved ones. The invitation to return to your FOO role as…pleaser, golden boy, scapegoat, prankster, the favorite, the youngest, the hero, the clown, or the … Continue reading

The Imago Center’s Lena Derhally on how to say “No” and setting boundaries

Lena Derhally was interviewed by Margarita Tartakovsky at Psych Central on tips to make saying No a lot easier.  She gives us three tips to  set boundaries, “If we learn to say ‘no,’ put our foot down and not let people take advantage of us, then we feel less resentful — … Continue reading

Six Signs that Stress Effects You Physically

Because of the pressures put on us by others (and ourselves!), stress has become imminent.  We’ve filled our days with activities and loaded ourselves down with expectations. Occasionally in times of serious stress, our symptoms can turn physical. The important thing is to recognize these symptoms and combat them with … Continue reading

How Can Stress Affect Your Relationship

 Relationships are like roller coasters, they all go through their highs and lows.  What can make for even more low periods than normal is stress.  Stress can take an incredible toll on two people that are committed to each other and turn it into a rough experience.    Stress can come … Continue reading

Stress-Producing Stress

Define “stress.” Most people would define stress as an overall negative feeling. What kind of feeling, exactly? Stress might feel like: anger worry sadness being overwhelmed despair shock exhaustion pressure busyness irritation fear distraction confusion etc…   In other words, stress is an actual, definable emotion, not just a vague, … Continue reading

Cartoon Marriage

The veteran English teacher in me loves this title borrowed from New Yorker cartoonist, Liza Donnelly and Michael Maslin’s collection of the same name. Read one way, it sounds like marriage is being described as a cartoon (ha-ha funny).  Read another way, the word cartoon becomes an imperative command for us … Continue reading

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