Video Games: The Ongoing Questions

I appreciate my colleague Nathan Gehlert’s recent remarks in the article the posted on video game addiction. In my practice, as well, clients bring their worries about excessive playing of video games. Indeed, the phenomena is enough in the foreground of our culture that the APA actually considered adding game addiction … Continue reading

Cartoon Marriage

The veteran English teacher in me loves this title borrowed from New Yorker cartoonist, Liza Donnelly and Michael Maslin’s collection of the same name. Read one way, it sounds like marriage is being described as a cartoon (ha-ha funny).  Read another way, the word cartoon becomes an imperative command for us … Continue reading

Safe Encounters: Relationship Tip

“You are so critical and hyper!” “You are so withdrawn and unsupportive!” We all tend to be experts on what is wrong with our partners. Certainly, this level of awareness is an important starting point when considering our troubled relationships. Yet, such criticisms are not conducive to healthy connecting. Most … Continue reading

Virtual Connections: Relationship Tip of the Month

Social networks such as Facebook and Twitter are excellent instruments to establish connection. Yet they can be a source of disconnect and rupture for committed relationships, because they offer an opportunity to reconnect with old infatuations. Social networking may make it easy to meet people with similar interests, particularly when … Continue reading

What's Really to Blame

Anyone in a long-term relationship knows about the trivial frustrations that creep into daily life. We find ourselves keeping score and bickering over silly things like dishes left in the sink; where to go to eat; the toilet seat in the wrong position. Healthy couples learn to become suspicious of … Continue reading

Relationship Advice: Annual Review with your Partner

As we turn the page on a new year, many of us intend to make this year the time we improve our personal relationships. We often jot down a few personal goals at the beginning of each year, and if you are like me, within a few months the list … Continue reading

Recharging Batteries: Soothing Your Overworked Partner

“Is loss of connection and intimacy an inevitable outcome of our harried lives?” asks Offra Gerstein, Ph.D., a psychologist and columnist in Santa Cruz, Calif. Not if we become aware of the impact of work, family, and stress on our relationships, she says. “Couples who are both employed outside the … Continue reading

Setting the Time and Place for Conversation

In order to keep the peace and be productive when tackling big issues, couples should avoid bringing up loaded topics at bed time or right before rushing out to work or appointments. You might end up arguing all night since you are tired and less able to function with that … Continue reading

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