Relationship Advice:10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner

I was recently inspired by Dr. Barton Goldsmith’s, ‘10 Tips to Help You Pick a Good Partner‘ featured on Psychology Today.  As a compliment to his tips, I wrote my own version called  ‘10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner..’ I hope you will find it informative and insightful!

Relationship Rule to Break: We need to be able to resolve all our conflicts

Couples often come to counseling with the expectation that they must resolve all of their issues in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. This is simply not true. In fact, marriage researcher, John Gottman and his associates, find that 69% of a couple’s marital conflicts CANNOT be resolved! That’s … Continue reading

Relationship Rules to Break: I shouldn’t have to ask for the things that make me feel loved

“How can he not know how horribly inappropriate it was to give me a blender for my birthday?” “Does she not get that I can’t just spill my guts on demand? Why is she all up in my face with “What’s wrong? Talk to me!” “Do I have to write … Continue reading

Relationship Rule to Break: In marriage we merge into one

“You complete me.” Tom Cruise’s famous line to his girlfriend in the classic romantic comedy Jerry Maguire captures the illusion of romantic love. Married or committed couples should merge into one: share the same interests; agree on everything; spend every moment together — right? Only in Hollywood. It probably comes … Continue reading

Relationship Rule to Break: It takes two to argue. . .

. . .and the partner doing the most talking is the one to blame. The tension of arguments, defining and expressing our own differing opinions, comprises some of the real pleasures of being in a mature relationship. Run fast, however, from any relationship rule about arguments that encourages blame. I … Continue reading

Relationship Rule to Break: Relationships should not be mundane

You’ve probably heard plenty of times that you should “spice things up” in your relationship, or “keep things exciting” in order to keep your relationship alive. Everywhere we go, we are bombarded with the message that we need to constantly be doing things in order to have a great relationship, … Continue reading

Relationship Rule to Break: Never argue in front of the kids

Many of us make it to adulthood with the belief that a perfect relationship means zero conflict, and we often funnel this belief into our parenting style. But disputes are inevitable, and so we cling to the mantra, “Never fight in front of the kids.” This usually results in one … Continue reading

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