Your Brain on Love

There is a great article in the Washington Post today, Falling in love is all in our brains.  The article reviews the neurochemistry of how we fall in love.  Our brains produce a “love cocktail” of testosterone, dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin which all play a role in why we are … Continue reading

Navigating IF: New Monthly Group for Couples

Navigating infertility and adoption can be a difficult journey for couples.  All you want is to add to your family, and it can be a challenge to keep your relationship on track given all of the stresses you both feel.  So here’s a proactive, positive step forward – join my … Continue reading

A New Look at Family Gift Giving Traditions

While reading an article on mindful gift giving, I realized that some of the best relationship advice during the holidays is to take stock of inherited traditions. What worked at one time, may not work as well anymore, especially regarding gift-giving. Many families debate, anguish, and obsess over the best … Continue reading

Relationship Advice: When the Honeymoon is Over: How to Keep the Love Alive

 My latest Pamela’s Punch blog, When the Honeymoon is Over: How to Keep the Love Alive,  takes a look at the “honeymoon phase” in relationships and how it can dissipate relatively quickly. What happens to us during the honeymoon phase and how can we nurture our relationship to be deeper … Continue reading

Seven Days of Thanksgiving: “The Greatest Thanks is to give thanks for everything”

“The greatest thing is to give thanks for everything. He who has learned this knows what it means to live. He has penetrated the whole mystery of life: giving thanks for everything.” – Albert Schweitzer. Great wisdom, but as it turns out “penetrating the mystery of life” is easier said than done, … Continue reading

Eye-rolling as contempt

I was recently listening to couples expert, John Gottman talk about the four fatal behaviors that, if all are present, can predict divorce. He calls these the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. The negative behaviors are criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling (silence and/or avoidance), and contempt. What is contempt? It is total disregard … Continue reading

Relationship Advice: 10 Signs That You May Be Dating the Wrong Person

My latest blog for Pamela’s Punch is some more relationship advice called 10 Signs That You May Be Dating the Wrong Person. This blog specifically discusses how to discern whether or not you are with the right person and how to break unhealthy relationship patterns that you keep repeating.

Relationship Rule to Break: We need to be fair when splitting household tasks

I remember my Kindergarten days and how my teacher would tell us “wait your turn”, “now it is time to clean up”, and “everyone needs to do their share.” The early sense of fairness and the expectation that tasks will be distributed evenly seems to become part of each of … Continue reading

Relationship Rule to Break: We can’t have any fun until we solve our problems

There is an unspoken rule in relationships that partners can’t have any fun together until they “get over” the significant problems they face or stop having any kind of conflict. The truth is, all relationships have issues, and if you wait until they are resolved to start enjoying each other again, … Continue reading

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