The Best Wedding Gift Ever

If you are preparing to be married, consider premarital counseling: it’s the best investment in your relationship you’ll ever make. You don’t have to be religious to try it. Even though some couples come to premarital counseling because their priest, minister, or rabbi has made it a requirement before marriage, many … Continue reading

Lena Derhally – 3 Myths about Healthy Marriages that Most People Think Are True

The Imago Center’s Lena Derhally was interviewed for Psych Central about myths about healthy marriages that most people think are true. There are many myths about what a healthy marriage looks and feels like. When we start seeing these myths as facts, we get into problematic territory. Many myths create … Continue reading

Couples Workshop – Getting The Love You Want

Getting The Love You Want Workshops are designed to help couples reconnect and successfully resolve conflict. Getting The Love You Want is based on tested Imago counseling strategies that enable partners to discover mutual communication for every aspect of your relationship and strengthen bonds over time. The workshop addresses mental, … Continue reading

Why All Couples Could Benefit from (Good) Couples Therapy

During my training in Imago Relationship Therapy, one phrase has always stuck with me: “No one teaches us how to be in relationships.” If we have parents with a good marriage, modeling can be a great teacher but it’s still not the exact same thing as what it truly means … Continue reading

What people are saying about our premarital workshop

Our next Start Right, Stay Connected premarital workshop is scheduled for Saturday, June 8th, 2013 in Chevy Chase, MD.. Roberta Martin and Caroline Bernhardt Lanier look forward to another fun, interactive day. Here’s what participants said about our last two workshops: Positive and eye opening and helpful.  Thank you for … Continue reading

Your Brain on Love

There is a great article in the Washington Post today, Falling in love is all in our brains.  The article reviews the neurochemistry of how we fall in love.  Our brains produce a “love cocktail” of testosterone, dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin which all play a role in why we are … Continue reading

Kim Kardashian, narcissism, and weddings

I recently read an article on CNN called ‘Narcissists want weddings, not marriage.’ The article discusses the hoopla around the Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries marriage (and now impending divorce) and how it relates to narcissism. Since Kim Kardashian’s announcement of a divorce after 72 days of marriage, I have read plenty … Continue reading

What people are saying about our premarital workshop

Our next Start Right, Stay Connected premarital workshop is scheduled for Saturday, January 28, 2012 in Arlington.  Kevin Berrill and I look forward to another fun, interactive day. Here’s what participants said about our last workshop:   “Positive and eye opening and helpful.  Thank you for a great day!” “A … Continue reading

Not just the wedding, the marriage

My two daughters are 5 years apart and are getting married within months of each other.  The preparation has been fascinating with a focus on flowers, bands, tents, wedding dresses and goodie bags.  You get the idea. Amidst the flurry of energy focused on the actual day, we have had … Continue reading

Start Right Stay Connected Pre-marital Workshop

I recently had the pleasure of co-leading Start Right Stay Connected, a program for couples who are engaged to be married or deepening commitment.  Four couples participated in the experiential workshop which addressed a variety of topics, including: How to create safety, improve communication, and heal childhood wounds Romantic attraction … Continue reading

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