Choose Today: Shame and Fear or Authenticity and Intimacy?

In the early years of our marriage, my husband Jason and I used to get stuck frequently in the same frustrating interaction. “We need to talk about our relationship” I would announce to him out of the blue, with urgency and anxiousness in my voice. “I’m feeling disconnected.” How do … Continue reading

Get the Love You Want, Now!

Getting The Love You Want

Take this test: Are you stuck in a pattern of constant conflict with your partner? Are you near break-up and wonder if your relationship can be saved? Are you longing for more fun, passion, and intimacy? Are you in a good relationship, but you really want a great relationship? If … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Tips: Repairing Ruptures

Repairing Ruptures

Have you ever experienced a rupture in your relationship that was intense and painful?

Stop Phubbing Your Partner! Are Cell Phones Getting in the Way of Your Relationship?

Not so very long ago I remember observing couples at restaurants spending more time looking at their cell phones than engaging each other and thinking how awful that was! Of course, not too long after that to my horror I realized that I was doing the same thing! Humbling! Recently, … Continue reading

Who is Helping You Get Off the Fence?

When two people are in a relationship and one decides to call it quits, does the other partner stand a chance to restore the rupture of an already broken relationship? Every week I encounter stories of couples on the fence or in crisis vacillating between staying in or getting out … Continue reading

We Need Mindful Relationships

You may be familiar with the healing properties of practicing mindfulness. Thirty years of research has shown that it increases our ability to relax, reduces pain, increases energy, improves self-esteem and helps us cope more effectively with stress. But how often do we practice mindfulness in our relationships? Mindfulness is … Continue reading

Is Your Relationship “Woke”?

I met with a couple recently who spent the greater part of their session dialoguing about a topic they considered trivial. “Wow, I can’t believe we spent all that time talking about that…” she expressed. However, the structure of the Imago Relationship Dialogue they utilized had revealed several underlying emotions … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Tips: Right Fighting

Have you ever had a conversation with your partner that turns into an argument over minor details? “I called you four times” “No you called me three times”, and it quickly becomes more important to be right than to be in the relationship. For more information on Imago Relationship therapy … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Tips: Process And Content

Have you ever had an argument with your partner where it feels like you’re fighting over minor details? “You said the blue one” “No I said then green one”, and then it becomes a fight over whose version of the story is right. For more information on Imago Relationship therapy … Continue reading

Four Interactions that Doom Your Relationship

Based on the research of Dr. John Gottman You may have heard of Dr. John Gottman. He’s known as the marriage researcher who can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will divorce. That’s not all he’s known for, but that piece of research certainly caught media attention. His dire … Continue reading

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