Parenting as a Spiritual Path: The Lessons in a Severed Ankle, a Chipped Tooth, and Stretch Marks

Growing up, I thought that I could only experience the spiritual in religious places like churches or in solemnly recited words of prayer (and only when I was perfectly well-behaved). Once I became a parent, however, my four children taught me that the sacred can surprise me everywhere, often most … Continue reading

Why I Need Help to be a Good Spouse and Parent

I was a child of the 1960’s – 70’s: The first generation of women in America discovering that they could, and perhaps should, have a career of their own outside the home. As little girls, my friends and I dreamed of our careers, not of having babies and making our … Continue reading

Parental Disagreement can be Good

As a couples therapist specializing in parenting issues, I often see parents who disagree about how to raise their children. Most often, these disagreements revolve around how they should discipline their children. What is too much, too little, or too harsh? One parent might feel that the child is taking … Continue reading

The Acknowledgement Couples Deserve When Raising a Child with Extra Needs

We know how the story goes: Boy meets girl, they fall in love. They get the house, the dog, the white picket fence, and plan to raise a family together. They all live happily ever after! But how often does the American Dream turn out the way Hollywood describes it? … Continue reading

Changes in Relationships

In a recent article about changes in relationship By Sara Polanchek and Sidney Shaw (Counseling Today, December 2015 – Ten intimate relationship research findings every counselor should know) I was slightly surprised by some statistics.  For example, cohabitation before marriage was reported as 60% today as compared to 5% in 1960. … Continue reading

Accept the Struggle that is Life

Last month, I wrote about narcissism: how as parents, we have the mistaken idea that we need to focus on making our children happy.  By keeping them always at the center of our attention, we are raising potential narcissists.  Instead, if we focus on helping them build the following traits, … Continue reading

Lena Derhally’s Washington Post article on parental anxiety

Anxiety is a daily challenge for many people. A special kind of anxiety can creep up when one becomes a parent. This article in the Washington Post by Lena Derhally discusses how becoming a parent can heighten anxieties when bad things happen but overcoming these fears takes precedence in order … Continue reading

Stop Contributing to Narcissism

Are there more narcissists in America these days?  We see entitled children with iPads whose parents hire Uber to take them to their friend’s house, and to training with their private coach. Are we afraid to disappoint, or hold back on our children when we agree to pay for and … Continue reading

In Appreciation of Attachment Parenting

Attachment parenting is a term coined by pediatrician and father William Sears. A number of attachment parenting bloggers like this wiki definition of attachment parenting, and so do I: Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of attachment theory in developmental psychology.  According to attachment theory, the … Continue reading

WashingtonPost.com's 'On Parenting' Asks About Holiday Stress

This week I was lucky to be quoted in the WashingtonPost.com “On Parenting” blog, written and curated by Janice D’Arcy. We spoke about the challenges new parents face when trying to make thoughtful decisions about long-held family traditions. It was fun to have the chance to really think through the … Continue reading

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