Conflict is Growth Trying to Happen

Several years ago, when I worked as a bereavement counselor, I’d often receive puzzled looks at parties when people I hadn’t met before asked where I worked. “You’re a grief counselor?” they’d ask. “But isn’t that depressing?” Actually, I’d say, it’s just the opposite. One of the many things I … Continue reading

OVERCOMING Infertility!

Please join me on Wednesday, May 9 from 6:30 – 9:00 pm at the Cade Foundation Outreach Event in Landover, Maryland.  I will be participating for the second year in a row in this free educational seminar for families or individuals with infertility. The event will feature a panel presentation … Continue reading

Your Brain on Love

There is a great article in the Washington Post today, Falling in love is all in our brains.  The article reviews the neurochemistry of how we fall in love.  Our brains produce a “love cocktail” of testosterone, dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin which all play a role in why we are … Continue reading

Navigating IF: New Monthly Group for Couples

Navigating infertility and adoption can be a difficult journey for couples.  All you want is to add to your family, and it can be a challenge to keep your relationship on track given all of the stresses you both feel.  So here’s a proactive, positive step forward – join my … Continue reading

Why Marriage Matters to Gay Couples

Only a few states grant gay couples the right to marry and in states that do so many gay couples have rushed to exercise that right.  My partner of sixteen years and I tied the knot soon after marriage became legal here in D.C. in 2010.  Early in our relationship … Continue reading

Sexual Addiction: ‘It’s Not About Sex’

My most recent article in Counseling Today magazine examines how sexual addiction impacts couples and how counseling can help both partners on the path to recovery. I was particularly intrigued by a book one of my sources, Barbara Steffens, co-authored, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal. … Continue reading

Eye-rolling as contempt

I was recently listening to couples expert, John Gottman talk about the four fatal behaviors that, if all are present, can predict divorce. He calls these the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. The negative behaviors are criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling (silence and/or avoidance), and contempt. What is contempt? It is total disregard … Continue reading

Kim Kardashian, narcissism, and weddings

I recently read an article on CNN called ‘Narcissists want weddings, not marriage.’ The article discusses the hoopla around the Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries marriage (and now impending divorce) and how it relates to narcissism. Since Kim Kardashian’s announcement of a divorce after 72 days of marriage, I have read plenty … Continue reading

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