Tender Touch

Tender touching is one way that we demonstrate affection towards another person. When you tenderly smooth back your partner’s hair, squeeze his shoulder as you join him on the sofa, massage her feet at the end of a workday, and hold hands walking down the street you are offering security, … Continue reading

Choose Today: Shame and Fear or Authenticity and Intimacy?

In the early years of our marriage, my husband Jason and I used to get stuck frequently in the same frustrating interaction. “We need to talk about our relationship” I would announce to him out of the blue, with urgency and anxiousness in my voice. “I’m feeling disconnected.” How do … Continue reading

Get the Love You Want, Now!

Getting The Love You Want

Take this test: Are you stuck in a pattern of constant conflict with your partner? Are you near break-up and wonder if your relationship can be saved? Are you longing for more fun, passion, and intimacy? Are you in a good relationship, but you really want a great relationship? If … Continue reading

Parenting as a Spiritual Path: The Lessons in a Severed Ankle, a Chipped Tooth, and Stretch Marks

Growing up, I thought that I could only experience the spiritual in religious places like churches or in solemnly recited words of prayer (and only when I was perfectly well-behaved). Once I became a parent, however, my four children taught me that the sacred can surprise me everywhere, often most … Continue reading

The Dynamics of Grief When a Relationship Ends

Loss, bereavement and grief are often first associated with death. Grief counseling is not often thought for anyone who hasn’t experienced a death of a loved one. However, grief and mourning encompass so much more beyond loss that comes from death. Loss of a job, autonomy and independence, a pet, … Continue reading

You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Together

You’ve probably heard the relationship advice, “You can be right, or you can be together.” Often when we get into conflict with our partners, we hold on with every ounce of our being to the conviction that we are right…and surrendering that assumption may feel like capitulation in the heat … Continue reading

Recharging Batteries: Soothing Your Overworked Partner

“Is loss of connection and intimacy an inevitable outcome of our harried lives?” asks Offra Gerstein, Ph.D., a psychologist and columnist in Santa Cruz, Calif. Not if we become aware of the impact of work, family, and stress on our relationships, she says. “Couples who are both employed outside the … Continue reading

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