The Best Wedding Gift Ever

If you are preparing to be married, consider premarital counseling: it’s the best investment in your relationship you’ll ever make. You don’t have to be religious to try it. Even though some couples come to premarital counseling because their priest, minister, or rabbi has made it a requirement before marriage, many … Continue reading

How Walt Disney Ruined Our Love Lives

Here is a provocative 2014 article from Brandeis Magazine inviting us to look at how legendary stories and fairy tales that had once offered a realistic and cautionary view of love and marriage became whitewashed narratives that lead us to divorce. http://www.brandeis.edu/magazine/2014/summer/featured-stories/disney.html

On Marriage: Keeping It Real

In my practice as a couples’ counselor for premarital and married couples, I often encounter the myth that marriage should always feel like an exciting, bliss-filled love-fest with your best friend and soul mate. If, god forbid, you find yourselves grating on each other’s nerves, or fighting a lot for … Continue reading

Premarital & Pre-Commitment Counseling

If you are planning to get married or make a long-term commitment to your partner, premarital or pre-commitment counseling will help you and your partner navigate the many stages of relationship ahead and will help you grow into a more conscious, mature, fulfilling relationship. Research indicates that premarital counseling can reduce … Continue reading

How to Use Conflict to Connect and Grow in Instead of Wound

As soon as my couples get serious about using conflict to grow rather than to wound or make the other “wrong,” things change quickly and dramatically. In the attached article (click link below), Brian Gersho writes, “If you were to witness a healthy couple disagreeing on an issue, it would … Continue reading

The Dynamics of Grief When a Relationship Ends

Loss, bereavement and grief are often first associated with death. Grief counseling is not often thought for anyone who hasn’t experienced a death of a loved one. However, grief and mourning encompass so much more beyond loss that comes from death. Loss of a job, autonomy and independence, a pet, … Continue reading

Hollywood’s Marriage Fantasies

I read this interesting article today about how Hollywood’s preoccupation with reconciliation stories may be impacting kids’ expectations about separation/divorce. My favorite line might be this one: “…Hollywood has always been interested in extreme and unlikely tales. Happy marriages are almost as uncommon in movies as rational divorces.” I was … Continue reading

Divorce Insurance…Really

A new Washington Post article details the latest money-saving opportunity: divorce insurance. In a time in which our nation’s financial anxiety is racheting out of control, a new company is set to offer the ultimate in self-protection. Apparently, prenuptial agreements have been on the rise in the last five years, … Continue reading

Facebook Divorce.

You’ll probably have one of two reactions to this article and your reaction will probably say a lot about your age. A recent study by Divorce-Online of 5,000 divorce papers found that 20% off them referenced Facebook, primarily because individuals were having secret online chats with friends. This is where … Continue reading

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