From Conflict to Connection

In my couples’ counseling practice, one of the things I enjoy most is teaching couples new tools to work through conflict. If you’re considering counseling to work on your relationship, here is a video that encapsulates the answers to, “What is Imago Relationship Therapy?” and “How can it help me?” … Continue reading

Conflict is Growth Trying to Happen

Several years ago, when I worked as a bereavement counselor, I’d often receive puzzled looks at parties when people I hadn’t met before asked where I worked. “You’re a grief counselor?” they’d ask. “But isn’t that depressing?” Actually, I’d say, it’s just the opposite. One of the many things I … Continue reading

You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Together

You’ve probably heard the relationship advice, “You can be right, or you can be together.” Often when we get into conflict with our partners, we hold on with every ounce of our being to the conviction that we are right…and surrendering that assumption may feel like capitulation in the heat … Continue reading

Relationship Rule to Break: We need to be able to resolve all our conflicts

Couples often come to counseling with the expectation that they must resolve all of their issues in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. This is simply not true. In fact, marriage researcher, John Gottman and his associates, find that 69% of a couple’s marital conflicts CANNOT be resolved! That’s … Continue reading

Relationship Rules to Break: I shouldn’t have to ask for the things that make me feel loved

“How can he not know how horribly inappropriate it was to give me a blender for my birthday?” “Does she not get that I can’t just spill my guts on demand? Why is she all up in my face with “What’s wrong? Talk to me!” “Do I have to write … Continue reading

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