In my couples’ counseling practice, one of the things I enjoy most is teaching couples new tools to work through conflict. If you’re considering counseling to work on your relationship, here is a video that encapsulates the answers to, “What is Imago Relationship Therapy?” and “How can it help me?” … Continue reading
The Internet is a wealth of information. You can get medical advice, relationship advice, learn how to cook and really find anything you need. Some of the most popular viral articles these days are ones on relationship advice. As an Imago relationship therapist I can’t help but click on an … Continue reading
Wondering what you can do to improve your marriage or committed relationship, even if your partner is resistant to change? Check out this video with Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., as he explains how it takes only one person to make a relationship better.
Several years ago, when I worked as a bereavement counselor, I’d often receive puzzled looks at parties when people I hadn’t met before asked where I worked. “You’re a grief counselor?” they’d ask. “But isn’t that depressing?” Actually, I’d say, it’s just the opposite. One of the many things I … Continue reading
You’ve probably heard the relationship advice, “You can be right, or you can be together.” Often when we get into conflict with our partners, we hold on with every ounce of our being to the conviction that we are right…and surrendering that assumption may feel like capitulation in the heat … Continue reading
Please join me on Wednesday, May 9 from 6:30 – 9:00 pm at the Cade Foundation Outreach Event in Landover, Maryland. I will be participating for the second year in a row in this free educational seminar for families or individuals with infertility. The event will feature a panel presentation … Continue reading
Curious about Imago? This video is a great resource. Harville Hendrix, the founder of Imago Relationship Therapy, talks about how are we attracted to our partners, the phases of relationship, and how to replace criticism and negativity with curiosity.
I was recently listening to couples expert, John Gottman talk about the four fatal behaviors that, if all are present, can predict divorce. He calls these the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. The negative behaviors are criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling (silence and/or avoidance), and contempt. What is contempt? It is total disregard … Continue reading
Couples often come to counseling with the expectation that they must resolve all of their issues in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. This is simply not true. In fact, marriage researcher, John Gottman and his associates, find that 69% of a couple’s marital conflicts CANNOT be resolved! That’s … Continue reading
“How can he not know how horribly inappropriate it was to give me a blender for my birthday?” “Does she not get that I can’t just spill my guts on demand? Why is she all up in my face with “What’s wrong? Talk to me!” “Do I have to write … Continue reading