30 Strategies for Self-Care and Why They Matter

Self Care

Self-care refers to things done by you for your own well-being and comfort. Many people know that self-care is especially important during times of stress, sadness, rejection, grief, and all kinds of upheaval and loss because it is these things that tap our inner resources and render us vulnerable to … Continue reading

Why I Need Help to be a Good Spouse and Parent

I was a child of the 1960’s – 70’s: The first generation of women in America discovering that they could, and perhaps should, have a career of their own outside the home. As little girls, my friends and I dreamed of our careers, not of having babies and making our … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Therapy represented in scholarly journals

After accepting a graduate counselor internship at The Imago Center of Washington DC, I became aware that Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) as an intervention was not well represented in scholarly journals.   However, my concern quickly diminished when conducting research on this subject. I came across an academic journal article published … Continue reading

Lena Derhally – 3 Myths about Healthy Marriages that Most People Think Are True

The Imago Center’s Lena Derhally was interviewed for Psych Central about myths about healthy marriages that most people think are true. There are many myths about what a healthy marriage looks and feels like. When we start seeing these myths as facts, we get into problematic territory. Many myths create … Continue reading

New Moms: Your Well-Being Matters!

This month, medical and mental health experts on the United States Preventive Services Task Force, a government-appointed health panel, emphasized the importance of screening women for depression both during pregnancy and after giving birth. After having a baby, most women experience some form of the “baby blues,” the normal hormonal … Continue reading

Changes in Relationships

In a recent article about changes in relationship By Sara Polanchek and Sidney Shaw (Counseling Today, December 2015 – Ten intimate relationship research findings every counselor should know) I was slightly surprised by some statistics.  For example, cohabitation before marriage was reported as 60% today as compared to 5% in 1960. … Continue reading

Four Interactions that Doom Your Relationship

Based on the research of Dr. John Gottman You may have heard of Dr. John Gottman. He’s known as the marriage researcher who can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will divorce. That’s not all he’s known for, but that piece of research certainly caught media attention. His dire … Continue reading

Which Way Do I Go?

I am currently counseling several couples that find themselves at a point in their relationship.  They are stuck in their past hurts and frustrations with their partner and schedule a session with me in the hope of finding an extra strength, fast acting remedy to their relationship malaise.  Their pain … Continue reading

What Makes A Good Marriage?

I recently read an article in which the author wrote, “I don’t know what makes a good marriage.”  It was an advice piece on marriage.  That we come out of primary, secondary, and post-secondary education with no instruction in how to succeed at marriage is strange, isn’t it?  Is this … Continue reading

Divorce Insurance…Really

A new Washington Post article details the latest money-saving opportunity: divorce insurance. In a time in which our nation’s financial anxiety is racheting out of control, a new company is set to offer the ultimate in self-protection. Apparently, prenuptial agreements have been on the rise in the last five years, … Continue reading

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