How to talk to kids about sexual abuse, and how you can help prevent it

One of my clients came into my office one day for a last-minute appointment and he sounded anxious. I had been working with him as his psychotherapist for several months and we had just started to delve into some deeper issues as our therapeutic bond became stronger. It was in that session, … Continue reading

Why I Need Help to be a Good Spouse and Parent

I was a child of the 1960’s – 70’s: The first generation of women in America discovering that they could, and perhaps should, have a career of their own outside the home. As little girls, my friends and I dreamed of our careers, not of having babies and making our … Continue reading

The Joys of Being a Grandmother

No one ever tells you how much your heart will swell upon becoming a grandmother. Research studies have determined that women who have grandchildren geographically close by, and are involved in their lives, live longer. It is no surprise to me. But the benefits go both ways in this relationship. … Continue reading

The Best Wedding Gift Ever

If you are preparing to be married, consider premarital counseling: it’s the best investment in your relationship you’ll ever make. You don’t have to be religious to try it. Even though some couples come to premarital counseling because their priest, minister, or rabbi has made it a requirement before marriage, many … Continue reading

Parental Disagreement can be Good

As a couples therapist specializing in parenting issues, I often see parents who disagree about how to raise their children. Most often, these disagreements revolve around how they should discipline their children. What is too much, too little, or too harsh? One parent might feel that the child is taking … Continue reading

The Acknowledgement Couples Deserve When Raising a Child with Extra Needs

We know how the story goes: Boy meets girl, they fall in love. They get the house, the dog, the white picket fence, and plan to raise a family together. They all live happily ever after! But how often does the American Dream turn out the way Hollywood describes it? … Continue reading

New Moms: Your Well-Being Matters!

This month, medical and mental health experts on the United States Preventive Services Task Force, a government-appointed health panel, emphasized the importance of screening women for depression both during pregnancy and after giving birth. After having a baby, most women experience some form of the “baby blues,” the normal hormonal … Continue reading

Accept the Struggle that is Life

Last month, I wrote about narcissism: how as parents, we have the mistaken idea that we need to focus on making our children happy.  By keeping them always at the center of our attention, we are raising potential narcissists.  Instead, if we focus on helping them build the following traits, … Continue reading

Lena Derhally’s Washington Post article on parental anxiety

Anxiety is a daily challenge for many people. A special kind of anxiety can creep up when one becomes a parent. This article in the Washington Post by Lena Derhally discusses how becoming a parent can heighten anxieties when bad things happen but overcoming these fears takes precedence in order … Continue reading

In Appreciation of Attachment Parenting

Attachment parenting is a term coined by pediatrician and father William Sears. A number of attachment parenting bloggers like this wiki definition of attachment parenting, and so do I: Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of attachment theory in developmental psychology.  According to attachment theory, the … Continue reading

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