Is Your Relationship “Woke”?

I met with a couple recently who spent the greater part of their session dialoguing about a topic they considered trivial. “Wow, I can’t believe we spent all that time talking about that…” she expressed. However, the structure of the Imago Relationship Dialogue they utilized had revealed several underlying emotions … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Tips: Transition Time

Have you ever walked from one room to another to get a pair of scissors and when you get there forgotten what you were looking for then you walk back into the original room and the memory comes back to you? Well you’re not alone, almost all human beings struggle … Continue reading

Group Therapy: Is It the Next Right Thing for Me?

My perception of group therapy is in part informed by two books: Irvin Yalom’s novel The Schopenhauer Cure and Norah Ephron’s Heartburn. Formal training is an essential foundation, and so is experience, but sometimes there is nothing as instructive as well-informed fiction. Yalom the consummate group therapist, and Ephron is … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Tips: Right Fighting

Have you ever had a conversation with your partner that turns into an argument over minor details? “I called you four times” “No you called me three times”, and it quickly becomes more important to be right than to be in the relationship. For more information on Imago Relationship therapy … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Tips: Process And Content

Have you ever had an argument with your partner where it feels like you’re fighting over minor details? “You said the blue one” “No I said then green one”, and then it becomes a fight over whose version of the story is right. For more information on Imago Relationship therapy … Continue reading

Getting Triggered! It can be a slippery slope but doesn’t have to be

We all know that feeling of getting triggered. A quick feeling of anger, hurt, fear, or perhaps the feeling of being misjudged or ignored. That comment from a boss or colleague that leaves you feeling criticized. An eye roll from your teen. The dreaded silence of a partner when you … Continue reading

How to Use Conflict to Connect and Grow in Instead of Wound

As soon as my couples get serious about using conflict to grow rather than to wound or make the other “wrong,” things change quickly and dramatically. In the attached article (click link below), Brian Gersho writes, “If you were to witness a healthy couple disagreeing on an issue, it would … Continue reading

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