. . .or maybe I should get right to my point: everyone should read James Hollis’ book, Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men. Not only is it clear and straightforward on the topic of men’s issues, but, it resonates. Make sure you’re your have a highlighter nearby when you read it; it’s the kind of book that has most people underlining multiple passages.
This is what Hollis says about it on his website:
In focusing on men’s issues, it is not my intention to minimize the wounds of women. We of the male gender owe a deep debt of gratitude to those women who have spoken out, not only to express their own pain within our sexist culture, but also to free men to be more fully themselves. Their cri de coeur has helped men look more consciously to their own wounding, and we are all better served as a result. The example of women struggling to free themselves from the shadows of the collective gives courage and makes it necessary for men to do likewise. Unless men can emerge from darkness, we shall continue to wound women and each other, and the world can never be a safe or healthy place. This work we do, then, is not only for ourselves but also for those around us.
What my clients say about Hollis’ book, whether they are men or women, is that it is life-changing. He illuminates the problems behind unconscious patterns but also offers solutions. It’s a book that’s an invitation for ushering in change.