Want to Give A Little Advice? Don’t Do It! (or not until you have read this first)

Giving advice to someone who may be struggling, or stuck in that maelstrom of an unresolved situation, comes naturally, and often unconsciously for many of us. Before you know it, out pops your opinion and well-intentioned, ‘just do_____’. Sometimes we even follow up with our analysis of why our advice … Continue reading

Looking to Alternatives in Pain Management

Someone very dear to me lives with pain that has become the defining factor in her life. It is difficult, most certainly for her, but also for those who love her. This is an issue that affects families and relationships and it is often not talked about. It is also … Continue reading

The SYMBIS Assessment: A great tool for Premarital Preparation

pre-marriage-assessment

PC&CC/The Imago Center is now offering The SYMBIS Assessment as part of our premarital preparation. The SYMBIS Assessment is based on the research of Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, authors of the best selling book “Save Your Marriage Before It Starts. The SYMBIS is a 200 question assessment taken online by … Continue reading

30 Strategies for Self-Care and Why They Matter

Self Care

Self-care refers to things done by you for your own well-being and comfort. Many people know that self-care is especially important during times of stress, sadness, rejection, grief, and all kinds of upheaval and loss because it is these things that tap our inner resources and render us vulnerable to … Continue reading

How to Choose the Right Couples Therapist

Many of the couples I see in my practice are surprisingly not in couples therapy for the first time. In some cases they felt the therapy wasn’t working and they wanted to try a different approach, in other cases they had a bad experience but were still committed to making … Continue reading

How to talk to kids about sexual abuse, and how you can help prevent it

One of my clients came into my office one day for a last-minute appointment and he sounded anxious. I had been working with him as his psychotherapist for several months and we had just started to delve into some deeper issues as our therapeutic bond became stronger. It was in that session, … Continue reading

Why I Need Help to be a Good Spouse and Parent

I was a child of the 1960’s – 70’s: The first generation of women in America discovering that they could, and perhaps should, have a career of their own outside the home. As little girls, my friends and I dreamed of our careers, not of having babies and making our … Continue reading

Radical Self-Care for the Holidays!

Heading into the holidays is like relationship boot camp. Your family of origin (FOO) brings out the best and the worst in you and your loved ones. The invitation to return to your FOO role as…pleaser, golden boy, scapegoat, prankster, the favorite, the youngest, the hero, the clown, or the … Continue reading

Few Safe Spaces Post Election

Post US Presidential election, depending on where you live in the country, there are few safe spaces where people feel they can voice their real feelings. This is not just about the presidential candidates but views of government, policy and general grievances about the many injustices and suffering that has … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Therapy represented in scholarly journals

After accepting a graduate counselor internship at The Imago Center of Washington DC, I became aware that Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) as an intervention was not well represented in scholarly journals.   However, my concern quickly diminished when conducting research on this subject. I came across an academic journal article published … Continue reading

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