Few Safe Spaces Post Election

Post US Presidential election, depending on where you live in the country, there are few safe spaces where people feel they can voice their real feelings. This is not just about the presidential candidates but views of government, policy and general grievances about the many injustices and suffering that has … Continue reading

Imago Relationship Therapy represented in scholarly journals

After accepting a graduate counselor internship at The Imago Center of Washington DC, I became aware that Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) as an intervention was not well represented in scholarly journals.   However, my concern quickly diminished when conducting research on this subject. I came across an academic journal article published … Continue reading

Why We Need Gratitude More Than Ever this Thanksgiving

After this polarizing election year that has left many of us feeling disconnected, weary, and fearful, Thanksgiving offers an opportunity for reconnection — even with family members of different political leanings, if we are intentional and focused on practicing gratitude. Here are three reasons that choosing a grateful outlook can … Continue reading

The NPR Diane Rehm Show: How We Choose Our Spouses

Recently, I listened to a panel discussion on the NPR Diane Rehm show entitled “How We Choose our Spouses”, (http://thedianerehmshow.org/shows/2016-10-17/how-we-choose-our-spouses). Did anyone else listen to this? The topic was inspired by a provocative New York Times article “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person” by Alain de Botton. As a … Continue reading

The Joys of Being a Grandmother

No one ever tells you how much your heart will swell upon becoming a grandmother. Research studies have determined that women who have grandchildren geographically close by, and are involved in their lives, live longer. It is no surprise to me. But the benefits go both ways in this relationship. … Continue reading

Getting Triggered! It can be a slippery slope but doesn’t have to be

We all know that feeling of getting triggered. A quick feeling of anger, hurt, fear, or perhaps the feeling of being misjudged or ignored. That comment from a boss or colleague that leaves you feeling criticized. An eye roll from your teen. The dreaded silence of a partner when you … Continue reading

The Best Wedding Gift Ever

If you are preparing to be married, consider premarital counseling: it’s the best investment in your relationship you’ll ever make. You don’t have to be religious to try it. Even though some couples come to premarital counseling because their priest, minister, or rabbi has made it a requirement before marriage, many … Continue reading

Making Peace With Your Inner Pessimist

The explosion in neuroscience over the past 20 years has revealed, among many things, that the human brain has a built-in bias toward the negative. In the world of evolutionary psychology this makes a great deal of sense. If we don’t stay alive, other biological imperatives like “Where’s the food?” … Continue reading

Parental Disagreement can be Good

As a couples therapist specializing in parenting issues, I often see parents who disagree about how to raise their children. Most often, these disagreements revolve around how they should discipline their children. What is too much, too little, or too harsh? One parent might feel that the child is taking … Continue reading

Creating Something Special in Our Kitchens

Paradoxically, while we may be more connected online, many of us are becoming less connected offline. How often do we see couples at a restaurant looking more at their cell phones than at each other. Think about kids (and parents!) on their cell phones at the dinner table! To battle … Continue reading

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