Is There a Future in Monogamy?


The classic model of marriage and partnership is changing. One reason is because internal and external pressures on marriage cause increasingly undeliverable expectations. Where once we were socially connected to communities and extended families over a lifetime, couples now expect their primary relationship to deliver all that comfort and connection. … Continue reading

The Ashley Madison Cheating Website Debacle: What Does It All Mean?

If you’ve heard the name Ashley Madison only in passing, you may not know that is a website for married (or otherwise committed) people to find partners in adultery.  Ashley Madison, a combination of the two popular female names Ashley and Madison, entered the social networking scene in 2001, … Continue reading

On Marriage: Keeping It Real


In my practice as a couples’ counselor for premarital and married couples, I often encounter the myth that marriage should always feel like an exciting, bliss-filled love-fest with your best friend and soul mate. If, god forbid, you find yourselves grating on each other’s nerves, or fighting a lot for … Continue reading

Four Interactions that Doom Your Relationship


Based on the research of Dr. John Gottman You may have heard of Dr. John Gottman. He’s known as the marriage researcher who can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will divorce. That’s not all he’s known for, but that piece of research certainly caught media attention. His dire … Continue reading

Which Way Do I Go?


I am currently counseling several couples that find themselves at a point in their relationship.  They are stuck in their past hurts and frustrations with their partner and schedule a session with me in the hope of finding an extra strength, fast acting remedy to their relationship malaise.  Their pain … Continue reading

Accept the Struggle that is Life


Last month, I wrote about narcissism: how as parents, we have the mistaken idea that we need to focus on making our children happy.  By keeping them always at the center of our attention, we are raising potential narcissists.  Instead, if we focus on helping them build the following traits, … Continue reading

Lena Derhally’s Washington Post article on parental anxiety


Anxiety is a daily challenge for many people. A special kind of anxiety can creep up when one becomes a parent. This article in the Washington Post by Lena Derhally discusses how becoming a parent can heighten anxieties when bad things happen but overcoming these fears takes precedence in order … Continue reading

Stop Contributing to Narcissism


Are there more narcissists in America these days?  We see entitled children with iPads whose parents hire Uber to take them to their friend’s house, and to training with their private coach. Are we afraid to disappoint, or hold back on our children when we agree to pay for and … Continue reading

Men’s Rites of Passage coming to the DC area

Men's Rites of Passage 2015

Men, want to nurture a deep open-hearted spirituality based upon timeless wisdom that can guide you in living a generative life? Men As Learners and Elders (MALES) of the Washington DC Region will host a Men’s Rites of Passage (MROP) near Harper’s Ferry, West Virginia, from Wednesday afternoon, April 22, … Continue reading

Why do our partners seem to bring out the worst in us? [Video]

Harville Hendrix

The Imago Institute’s Harville Hendrix and Helen Lakelly Hunt, Andrea Miller, Family Therapist Joyce Fine, LPC Jamie Simkins Rogers and the Relationship Help Doctor Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about how our expectations influence our love lives. Read more:

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