New Moms: Your Well-Being Matters!

This month, medical and mental health experts on the United States Preventive Services Task Force, a government-appointed health panel, emphasized the importance of screening women for depression both during pregnancy and after giving birth. After having a baby, most women experience some form of the “baby blues,” the normal hormonal … Continue reading

How Walt Disney Ruined Our Love Lives

Here is a provocative 2014 article from Brandeis Magazine inviting us to look at how legendary stories and fairy tales that had once offered a realistic and cautionary view of love and marriage became whitewashed narratives that lead us to divorce. http://www.brandeis.edu/magazine/2014/summer/featured-stories/disney.html

The Imago Center’s Lena Derhally on how to say “No” and setting boundaries

Lena Derhally was interviewed by Margarita Tartakovsky at Psych Central on tips to make saying No a lot easier.  She gives us three tips to  set boundaries, “If we learn to say ‘no,’ put our foot down and not let people take advantage of us, then we feel less resentful — … Continue reading

Why Group Therapy for Men: 5 Benefits

Recently, a wife of a man in one of my men’s group said, “Dr Siegel did you sprinkle pixie dust on my husband?  He’s changed!”  For most of my 25 years as a psychologist I have worked with men in group therapy because it is such a powerful therapeutic approach … Continue reading

Changes in Relationships

In a recent article about changes in relationship By Sara Polanchek and Sidney Shaw (Counseling Today, December 2015 – Ten intimate relationship research findings every counselor should know) I was slightly surprised by some statistics.  For example, cohabitation before marriage was reported as 60% today as compared to 5% in 1960. … Continue reading

Is There a Future in Monogamy?

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The classic model of marriage and partnership is changing. One reason is because internal and external pressures on marriage cause increasingly undeliverable expectations. Where once we were socially connected to communities and extended families over a lifetime, couples now expect their primary relationship to deliver all that comfort and connection. … Continue reading

The Ashley Madison Cheating Website Debacle: What Does It All Mean?

If you’ve heard the name Ashley Madison only in passing, you may not know that AshleyMadison.com is a website for married (or otherwise committed) people to find partners in adultery.  Ashley Madison, a combination of the two popular female names Ashley and Madison, entered the social networking scene in 2001, … Continue reading

On Marriage: Keeping It Real

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In my practice as a couples’ counselor for premarital and married couples, I often encounter the myth that marriage should always feel like an exciting, bliss-filled love-fest with your best friend and soul mate. If, god forbid, you find yourselves grating on each other’s nerves, or fighting a lot for … Continue reading

Four Interactions that Doom Your Relationship

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Based on the research of Dr. John Gottman You may have heard of Dr. John Gottman. He’s known as the marriage researcher who can predict with 94% accuracy whether a couple will divorce. That’s not all he’s known for, but that piece of research certainly caught media attention. His dire … Continue reading

Which Way Do I Go?

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I am currently counseling several couples that find themselves at a point in their relationship.  They are stuck in their past hurts and frustrations with their partner and schedule a session with me in the hope of finding an extra strength, fast acting remedy to their relationship malaise.  Their pain … Continue reading

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