If you knew the secret history of those you'd like to punish, you'd find a suffering & sorrow to disarm all your hostility.
If you sometimes feel drained by your relationship, you're probably frustrated and angry because your needs aren't being met. Instead of waiting for your partner to change so you can get what you want, take action yourself. Give yourself the nurturing you need! Go for a quiet drive, take a long walk, go fishing, play golf or tennis, get a therapeutic massage, or just spend some quiet time recharging your batteries. When you take good care of yourself, you'll find that your partner is more thoughtful of you, too. The time you spend nurturing you also nurtures your relationship by giving you an abundance of energy to share with your mate.
-From The Little Book of Love Tips by Martha Beveridge